I was fortunate to discover positive affirmations at a young age. When I was a youngster, I went through a phase where I was interested in psychic power development. Back then, the Internet was just a collection of crappy geocities sites (people still talked about the Gopher protocol and used BBS's as their internet service providers). So my main resource was the public library. And when you browse the shelves for literature on psionic powers, you're bound to run into all sorts of other exotic stuff. The library didn't actually have more than one or two books specifically related to psionics, so I ended up reading some stuff which was only related in the most tangential, distant ways. One book I ran into was Euclid's Elements, the world's oldest mathematics tome, and that led me to teach myself math (now I'm a third year PhD mathematics student at the Ohio State University). Another was Louise L. Hay's "You Can Heal Your Life". Something about the book called out to me and I grabbed it on an impulse, even though it absolutely was not the type of book I usually read.
From Hay's book, I learned about writing positive affirmations: statements like, "I am intelligent and I have a great memory". Or "I'm strong and healthy". Or anything you want, really. At first, the idea seemed silly. I kind of skimmed over it and read the other parts of the book. The book had a lot of other good things and made me see through a very different perspective. It was my first encounter with the idea of taking total self-responsibility for my actions. Until then, I'd harbored a tremendous amount of blame and spite against my parents, but Louise taught me how that kind of thinking did nothing to empower me or move me toward the things I wanted. After all, I can't control anyone but my own self, and anything that arises in my world, can ultimately be traced back to me as the source.
Over time, the silly-seeming writing exercises started to grow on me. Finally, I accepted them and put them into practice. It was a practice which would become a lifelong love, one which I'd go through phases practicing and neglecting. Ever since then, my life has been divided into two types of periods which alternate: periods when I actively make affirmation a part of my day, and periods when I don't. Without fail, the former are universally periods of joy and growth. The latter are periods of plateau.
When I first put them into action, I was surprised by the effectiveness of the positive affirmations. Since then, my appreciation and awareness of their power has only grown. I can't emphasize enough how powerful a tool they've proven during my life. Without fail, they elevate my consciousness, shifting my focus from hatred and anger toward love and joy.
HOW TO DO POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS
Once upon a time, there was a king who was suffering a terrible illness. He consulted a prophet, asking how he might be healed. The prophet gave him a very simple instruction: "Go and bathe in the kingdom's river three times." The king went away angrily: how could something so simple cure him of this grave illness which had afflicted him so long, and which had confounded all his royal physicians? After suffering some more, the fevered monarch returned to the prophet, who repeated his simple instructions. The King went and bathed in the river three times, and he was healed! He had resisted the prophet's prescription because it was so simple and easy, there was no way it could work. It was too good to be true. The wise man later spoke to the king: "If I had sent you on some perilous quest, you would have gone at once. And yet you hesitated to do something as simple as bathing in the river."
Positive Affirmations are the river bath with the miraculous power to change our reality. When I first read about them, I laughed them off: they were silly and there was no way you'd catch me doing something like that. Louise herself acknowledged this, speaking of clients who had reacted to her book violently, even throwing it against the wall and storming off. The idea that I could change my life just by writing down what I wanted, this just didn't fit with the model of reality I was using up until then. It went against my beliefs in laws of cause and effect. It went against the "good results require hard work" ethic pressed on me by my father and grandfather (which I've since found time and again to be totally wrong).
To do PA's couldn't possibly be easier. They're basically like prayers, but declarative instead of begging. They're easier than bathing in a river. Just figure out what you want, and write it. Or you could speak it aloud. Or even sing it. Speaking it into a mirror is very effective. Just somehow express it. You don't have to share it. I wouldn't share my first affirmation until I was 23 years old. I was always a little bit ashamed of the practice, just because it was that silly. But at the same time, I was aware of its awesome power!
The way I usually do my declarative prayers is, I write them down in a notebook. One after another. I usually start with the statement: "I bless everyone and everything around me with love and approval." I usually end with: "All is well in my world." (Both of these are strongly influenced by the examples in Hay's book) In the middle, I just go to town.
EXAMPLES OF POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS
Here are some examples. You can use these if you like, modify them however you please.
"My thoughts are positive and loving."
"I see the beauty in everything in my world."
"I lovingly accept all the change that occurs in my world."
"I deserve the best, and I accept it now!"
"I'm strong and sexy and great in bed."
"I naturally attract money and wealth."
"Every breath I take fills me with energy and health."
"I smile happily at the world around me."
"I'm overflowing with loving gratitude for all my blessings."
"I learn and grow from every experience in my life."
"I accept what is."
"I'm excellent at Japanese and at writing kanji."
"I choose to act, think, and speak positively."
"I'm slim and beautiful and healthy."
"I'm moving right now toward the best life possible."
The American author and comedian Al Franken used to have a shtick where he playfully mocked positive affirmations, adopting the persona "Stuart Smalley", a dorky high-pitched-voice cheesy character whose catch phrase was: "I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and doggone it, people like me." Even though Franken was just poking fun, this is actually a decent affirmation (though I personally would avoid using it since it always reminds me of Stuart and would make me giggle). What about Al Franken? He ran for the U.S. Senate and defeated his incumbent opponent in the state of Minnesota, making him a powerful United States Senator!
HOW POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS WORK
There are different explanations for PA, and as I've practiced them, mine have gradually shifted. Basically, I've gone through three different opinions as my understanding has evolved.
The first explanation I had was the most sciency one. This is that PA's work using the same principle as hypnosis and brainwashing. By writing down statements, we're giving commands to our subconscious mind which we'll later subconsciously endeavor to make real. There's probably some truth to this, but the explanation always nagged at me.
The second explanation is a variation on the first, but more informed because I've learned a lot more since the first. When I let my mind run on autopilot, it tends to take the beaten path. When there's a choice between thinking one thing or thinking another, the unwatched mind (the "monkey mind", as the Buddhists call it) tends toward whichever we've used more often. By actively guiding our thoughts along certain paths, we break those paths in, and over time, they become the default, so we follow them even when we're not actively doing daily affirmations.
The second explanation is just a straightforward sophistication of the first, and there's some truth to both, but both always nagged at the back of my mind for one simple reason: I kept seeing results that couldn't be explained by the acrobatics of my own mind.
Fasten your seatbelts, the third explanation is a radical shift away from the first two. These daily declarative prayers literally alter reality, like magic. This is accomplished by exploiting a very deep metaphysical law of the universe, a law which, a few years ago, I would've laughed away, but which I've since come to accept because I've seen it in action over and over again. I call it The Law of Belief.
The Law of Belief constrains the universe, binding it by the beliefs of the people dwelling within it. In a sentence: "The Universe will never allow a sentient being to witness his or her belief being violated." This doesn't mean that everyone's belief is objectively true: an atheist's belief and a Christian's belief cannot simultaneously be true, since each contradicts the other. It just means that the universe will never allow either the atheist or the Christian to witness anything which utterly disproves their belief. Thus, the Universe will never reveal a deity to a true athiest, nor the lack of a deity to a true Christian.
So what's this got to do with positive affirmations? When you repeat a declarative prayer, you're not just programming your subconscious mind or your neural networks, you're programming your belief. Because the universe refuses to disprove your beliefs to you, a true belief is as good as reality. It might or might not be objectively true; most beliefs are not. But it's the old tree falling in the forest: if reality refuses to show you something to the contrary, it's as good as true.
OPENING UP ABOUT POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS
Most of my life, I hid this "real life cheat code". I was afraid of what people would think of it: wouldn't they judge me for indulging in something so silly and new-agey? It's unscientific!!! Something eventually happened which made me care a whole lot less about what people think of me: I joined the seduction community (click that link to read the whole story) and spent thousands of hours desensitizing myself to rejection of every kind. That increased boldness allowed me to open up a little, so that I could occasionally insert one of my "statements of belief" into a conversation in an appropriate place. And I think that this really skyrocketed their effectiveness.
But what really opened me up was when I graduated from the seduction community. A series of revelations pushed me radically toward being more open in general; I even wrote a whole article about this: Openness. I decided to really bare myself to the world. After all, in only a few decades I'll be dead; I don't have time to accomplish the things I want to accomplish and play "undercover normal person" the whole time too!
I got up the courage to tell my girlfriend about P.A.'s, expecting her to react with some sort of argument about how it was a waste of time or something. Instead, she revealed that she had similar experiences. When she was young, a teacher told her class about a simple self-empowering technique: just say "Power! Power! Power!" Not quite the same as what I've been doing, but similar. When Glowing Face Girl put the technique to the test, it worked!
DECLARATIVE PRAYER VS. SUPPLICATIVE PRAYER
Many religions have known for centuries about the power of prayer. Unfortunately, they've mostly been using a very inefficient, un-streamlined version: supplicative prayer. Supplication means calling out to some outside power and begging for some favor.
Supplicating to a deity, real or imaginary, can have some power when done by someone who has enough faith in that god: instead of directly training their belief on what they want, they have the underlying belief that their guardian angel is listening to their prayers and intervening on their behalf. This is much less effective at actually changing reality, because the believer always has the "out" that their god denied their prayer for some holy reason. Faith with an "out" is pretty crappy faith, if you ask me!
EVERYTHING YOU SAY IS AN AFFIRMATION
Whenever you make any statement, you're affirming something. That doesn't mean that everything anyone says instantly becomes reality. The realization process requires that the statement be repeated often enough that it actually becomes belief.
Complaints are one very common example of declarative prayer. When we complain about some problem, we're actually solidifying it. Complaining is so far from productive, it's actually directly counter-productive. Instead of whining about something, I find it's more productive to think positively. One direct experience I had here was escaping from the Air Force. Two years into my tour at Davis-Monthan AFB, I was disgusted with my weather forecasting job, which was mostly busywork a computer could do. I became the biggest complainer in the squadron, and my world became a mountain of hurt. Things were going from bad to worse. My attempts to escape were futile. There was a chance to get out, when Congress declared the AF was overmanned and asked people to volunteer to leave (Force Shaping 2005), but my career was considered too vital and my application was denied. I even went so far as to visit the base shrink, trying to malinger my way out, but they weren't buying it. Meanwhile I kept complaining and my reality kept deteriorating-- my complaints were affirming and solidifying everything I hated and despised.
When I reached a certain rock bottom, I suddenly turned my thought processes around and remembered to think positively. I returned to the practice of affirming things with joy and love instead of whining about things with hatred and malice. Within a couple days, a miracle occurred. I went to bed and I had a dream where I was in the Sunshine Rescue Mission, a homeless outreach program where my father worked when I was born. I was in the big central dining room and everyone was singing hymns. As I listened to the holy music my vision shifted upward, somehow melting through the ceiling and piercing the veil of the sky, and I had the joyous revelation that everything was taken care of, that great powers were at work on my behalf. The dream was interrupted by the ringing of my phone. It was my flight master sergeant calling to tell me my 2nd Force Shaping application had been approved and I had a week to out-process-- with an honorable discharge.
Of course, nothing about this "miracle" was mystical or magical, unless you count the dream. It can all be nicely explained in such a way that noone's convictions about reality are compromised. That's the Law of Belief at work. The universe could've whisked me out of DMAFB on a fiery chariot like the prophets of the Old Testament, but that would've highly contradicted many peoples' long-held beliefs about certain laws of physics and probability ;)
The mind is enormously powerful-- powerful enough to directly modify reality. Our thoughts are the tools we use to make those modifications. Positive affirmations train and focus those thoughts. Isn't the world awesome?
FURTHER READING
Before I found Louise Hay's book, I was influenced by another book with some similar philosophy. Read about the revolutionary work done in this area by the prophet Merlin Carothers.
So now you've got the cheat codes and the game of life has suddenly been turned on its head. Everything's different. Freed from the worries and concerns of the average person, what's next? Living the adventure. Read my article: Become More Intelligent By Doing New Things.
If you want to read more about my time in the U.S. Air Force, the story begins in boot camp.
". Something about the book called out to me and I grabbed it on an impulse, even though it absolutely was not the type of book I usually read.From Hay's book, I learned about writing positive affirmations: statements like, "I am intelligent and I have a great memory". Or "I'm strong and healthy". Or anything you want, really. At first, the idea seemed silly. I kind of skimmed over it and read the other parts of the book. The book had a lot of other good things and made me see through a very different perspective. It was my first encounter with the idea of taking total self-responsibility for my actions. Until then, I'd harbored a tremendous amount of blame and spite against my parents, but Louise taught me how that kind of thinking did nothing to empower me or move me toward the things I wanted. After all, I can't control anyone but my own self, and anything that arises in my world, can ultimately be traced back to me as the source.
Over time, the silly-seeming writing exercises started to grow on me. Finally, I accepted them and put them into practice. It was a practice which would become a lifelong love, one which I'd go through phases practicing and neglecting. Ever since then, my life has been divided into two types of periods which alternate: periods when I actively make affirmation a part of my day, and periods when I don't. Without fail, the former are universally periods of joy and growth. The latter are periods of plateau.
When I first put them into action, I was surprised by the effectiveness of the positive affirmations. Since then, my appreciation and awareness of their power has only grown. I can't emphasize enough how powerful a tool they've proven during my life. Without fail, they elevate my consciousness, shifting my focus from hatred and anger toward love and joy.
HOW TO DO POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS
Once upon a time, there was a king who was suffering a terrible illness. He consulted a prophet, asking how he might be healed. The prophet gave him a very simple instruction: "Go and bathe in the kingdom's river three times." The king went away angrily: how could something so simple cure him of this grave illness which had afflicted him so long, and which had confounded all his royal physicians? After suffering some more, the fevered monarch returned to the prophet, who repeated his simple instructions. The King went and bathed in the river three times, and he was healed! He had resisted the prophet's prescription because it was so simple and easy, there was no way it could work. It was too good to be true. The wise man later spoke to the king: "If I had sent you on some perilous quest, you would have gone at once. And yet you hesitated to do something as simple as bathing in the river."
Positive Affirmations are the river bath with the miraculous power to change our reality. When I first read about them, I laughed them off: they were silly and there was no way you'd catch me doing something like that. Louise herself acknowledged this, speaking of clients who had reacted to her book violently, even throwing it against the wall and storming off. The idea that I could change my life just by writing down what I wanted, this just didn't fit with the model of reality I was using up until then. It went against my beliefs in laws of cause and effect. It went against the "good results require hard work" ethic pressed on me by my father and grandfather (which I've since found time and again to be totally wrong).
To do PA's couldn't possibly be easier. They're basically like prayers, but declarative instead of begging. They're easier than bathing in a river. Just figure out what you want, and write it. Or you could speak it aloud. Or even sing it. Speaking it into a mirror is very effective. Just somehow express it. You don't have to share it. I wouldn't share my first affirmation until I was 23 years old. I was always a little bit ashamed of the practice, just because it was that silly. But at the same time, I was aware of its awesome power!
The way I usually do my declarative prayers is, I write them down in a notebook. One after another. I usually start with the statement: "I bless everyone and everything around me with love and approval." I usually end with: "All is well in my world." (Both of these are strongly influenced by the examples in Hay's book) In the middle, I just go to town.
EXAMPLES OF POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS
Here are some examples. You can use these if you like, modify them however you please.
"My thoughts are positive and loving."
"I see the beauty in everything in my world."
"I lovingly accept all the change that occurs in my world."
"I deserve the best, and I accept it now!"
"I'm strong and sexy and great in bed."
"I naturally attract money and wealth."
"Every breath I take fills me with energy and health."
"I smile happily at the world around me."
"I'm overflowing with loving gratitude for all my blessings."
"I learn and grow from every experience in my life."
"I accept what is."
"I'm excellent at Japanese and at writing kanji."
"I choose to act, think, and speak positively."
"I'm slim and beautiful and healthy."
"I'm moving right now toward the best life possible."
The American author and comedian Al Franken used to have a shtick where he playfully mocked positive affirmations, adopting the persona "Stuart Smalley", a dorky high-pitched-voice cheesy character whose catch phrase was: "I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and doggone it, people like me." Even though Franken was just poking fun, this is actually a decent affirmation (though I personally would avoid using it since it always reminds me of Stuart and would make me giggle). What about Al Franken? He ran for the U.S. Senate and defeated his incumbent opponent in the state of Minnesota, making him a powerful United States Senator!
HOW POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS WORK
There are different explanations for PA, and as I've practiced them, mine have gradually shifted. Basically, I've gone through three different opinions as my understanding has evolved.
The first explanation I had was the most sciency one. This is that PA's work using the same principle as hypnosis and brainwashing. By writing down statements, we're giving commands to our subconscious mind which we'll later subconsciously endeavor to make real. There's probably some truth to this, but the explanation always nagged at me.
The second explanation is a variation on the first, but more informed because I've learned a lot more since the first. When I let my mind run on autopilot, it tends to take the beaten path. When there's a choice between thinking one thing or thinking another, the unwatched mind (the "monkey mind", as the Buddhists call it) tends toward whichever we've used more often. By actively guiding our thoughts along certain paths, we break those paths in, and over time, they become the default, so we follow them even when we're not actively doing daily affirmations.
The second explanation is just a straightforward sophistication of the first, and there's some truth to both, but both always nagged at the back of my mind for one simple reason: I kept seeing results that couldn't be explained by the acrobatics of my own mind.
Fasten your seatbelts, the third explanation is a radical shift away from the first two. These daily declarative prayers literally alter reality, like magic. This is accomplished by exploiting a very deep metaphysical law of the universe, a law which, a few years ago, I would've laughed away, but which I've since come to accept because I've seen it in action over and over again. I call it The Law of Belief.
The Law of Belief constrains the universe, binding it by the beliefs of the people dwelling within it. In a sentence: "The Universe will never allow a sentient being to witness his or her belief being violated." This doesn't mean that everyone's belief is objectively true: an atheist's belief and a Christian's belief cannot simultaneously be true, since each contradicts the other. It just means that the universe will never allow either the atheist or the Christian to witness anything which utterly disproves their belief. Thus, the Universe will never reveal a deity to a true athiest, nor the lack of a deity to a true Christian.
So what's this got to do with positive affirmations? When you repeat a declarative prayer, you're not just programming your subconscious mind or your neural networks, you're programming your belief. Because the universe refuses to disprove your beliefs to you, a true belief is as good as reality. It might or might not be objectively true; most beliefs are not. But it's the old tree falling in the forest: if reality refuses to show you something to the contrary, it's as good as true.
OPENING UP ABOUT POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS
Most of my life, I hid this "real life cheat code". I was afraid of what people would think of it: wouldn't they judge me for indulging in something so silly and new-agey? It's unscientific!!! Something eventually happened which made me care a whole lot less about what people think of me: I joined the seduction community (click that link to read the whole story) and spent thousands of hours desensitizing myself to rejection of every kind. That increased boldness allowed me to open up a little, so that I could occasionally insert one of my "statements of belief" into a conversation in an appropriate place. And I think that this really skyrocketed their effectiveness.
But what really opened me up was when I graduated from the seduction community. A series of revelations pushed me radically toward being more open in general; I even wrote a whole article about this: Openness. I decided to really bare myself to the world. After all, in only a few decades I'll be dead; I don't have time to accomplish the things I want to accomplish and play "undercover normal person" the whole time too!
I got up the courage to tell my girlfriend about P.A.'s, expecting her to react with some sort of argument about how it was a waste of time or something. Instead, she revealed that she had similar experiences. When she was young, a teacher told her class about a simple self-empowering technique: just say "Power! Power! Power!" Not quite the same as what I've been doing, but similar. When Glowing Face Girl put the technique to the test, it worked!
DECLARATIVE PRAYER VS. SUPPLICATIVE PRAYER
Many religions have known for centuries about the power of prayer. Unfortunately, they've mostly been using a very inefficient, un-streamlined version: supplicative prayer. Supplication means calling out to some outside power and begging for some favor.
Supplicating to a deity, real or imaginary, can have some power when done by someone who has enough faith in that god: instead of directly training their belief on what they want, they have the underlying belief that their guardian angel is listening to their prayers and intervening on their behalf. This is much less effective at actually changing reality, because the believer always has the "out" that their god denied their prayer for some holy reason. Faith with an "out" is pretty crappy faith, if you ask me!
EVERYTHING YOU SAY IS AN AFFIRMATION
Whenever you make any statement, you're affirming something. That doesn't mean that everything anyone says instantly becomes reality. The realization process requires that the statement be repeated often enough that it actually becomes belief.
Complaints are one very common example of declarative prayer. When we complain about some problem, we're actually solidifying it. Complaining is so far from productive, it's actually directly counter-productive. Instead of whining about something, I find it's more productive to think positively. One direct experience I had here was escaping from the Air Force. Two years into my tour at Davis-Monthan AFB, I was disgusted with my weather forecasting job, which was mostly busywork a computer could do. I became the biggest complainer in the squadron, and my world became a mountain of hurt. Things were going from bad to worse. My attempts to escape were futile. There was a chance to get out, when Congress declared the AF was overmanned and asked people to volunteer to leave (Force Shaping 2005), but my career was considered too vital and my application was denied. I even went so far as to visit the base shrink, trying to malinger my way out, but they weren't buying it. Meanwhile I kept complaining and my reality kept deteriorating-- my complaints were affirming and solidifying everything I hated and despised.
When I reached a certain rock bottom, I suddenly turned my thought processes around and remembered to think positively. I returned to the practice of affirming things with joy and love instead of whining about things with hatred and malice. Within a couple days, a miracle occurred. I went to bed and I had a dream where I was in the Sunshine Rescue Mission, a homeless outreach program where my father worked when I was born. I was in the big central dining room and everyone was singing hymns. As I listened to the holy music my vision shifted upward, somehow melting through the ceiling and piercing the veil of the sky, and I had the joyous revelation that everything was taken care of, that great powers were at work on my behalf. The dream was interrupted by the ringing of my phone. It was my flight master sergeant calling to tell me my 2nd Force Shaping application had been approved and I had a week to out-process-- with an honorable discharge.
Of course, nothing about this "miracle" was mystical or magical, unless you count the dream. It can all be nicely explained in such a way that noone's convictions about reality are compromised. That's the Law of Belief at work. The universe could've whisked me out of DMAFB on a fiery chariot like the prophets of the Old Testament, but that would've highly contradicted many peoples' long-held beliefs about certain laws of physics and probability ;)
The mind is enormously powerful-- powerful enough to directly modify reality. Our thoughts are the tools we use to make those modifications. Positive affirmations train and focus those thoughts. Isn't the world awesome?
FURTHER READING
Before I found Louise Hay's book, I was influenced by another book with some similar philosophy. Read about the revolutionary work done in this area by the prophet Merlin Carothers.
So now you've got the cheat codes and the game of life has suddenly been turned on its head. Everything's different. Freed from the worries and concerns of the average person, what's next? Living the adventure. Read my article: Become More Intelligent By Doing New Things.
If you want to read more about my time in the U.S. Air Force, the story begins in boot camp.
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4 comments:
Great article always wondered about positive affirmations but never really put it into practice, although I have had it happen many times i.e. when I was at my last job I hated it and constantly had depressive thoughts which made me feel down and that I couldn't do/achieve anything in life.
Now since I moved to a new job my change in thought processes from hating everything to liking much more has made me much more motivated and that if I put my mind to it I can do anything.
As an experiment I'll give this PA a try and see how it goes over the next few weeks or so.
I can agree with your observations about the power of positive affirmations, but I can’t quite go all the way with you to the view that "The Universe will never allow a sentient being to witness his or her belief being violated." I only say this because of Santa Claus. If it were true that we could never see that our beliefs are wrong, we would all go to our graves still believing that a magic man comes down the chimney to leave us gifts every year.
I attribute the effectiveness of positive thinking to the fact that nothing that’s real is ever good or bad in itself. Goodness or badness is a subjective judgment cast upon reality by the observer. As long as you “stay on the sunny side of life” (as the old song goes), it means you’re finding a way to interpret everything as good, as an opportunity, as something you want and welcome, and you’re making the most of whatever life gives you.
I've been aware of the power of thoughts for a while now, and try to steer myself away from thinking negative, self-reinforcing thoughts, but I never thought that just standing there and telling myself things in a mirror would work. Your post is the first information I've seen that actually convinces me that positive affirmations are worth a try. Plus, last night after reading this article for the first time I had a dream that I was standing in front of a mirror reciting affirmations--I guess that's a sign! (Too bad I don't remember what the affirmations were.)
Great article! I'm very impressed with a couple of articles I've read on your site and have subscribed to them. I have heard a lot about PA but never tried it regularly. I look at this PA as moving away from repetitive negative thoughts that our subconscious has a habit of practicing, so the PA is promoting consciousness but in a very positive way which helps you move more and more towards positive energy and it is bound to affect you positively. You create a habit of being positive which I hope will become very natural and effortless over time.
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