In neurolinguistic programming, there are a pair of related concepts called toward frames and away frames. Here "frame" is etymologically short for "frame of mind". In the context of NLP, the term can take on some additional meaning, but that's not necessary to understand the concepts in question. Consider the two statements, "I want to be happy" vs. "I don't want to be sad." The former is spoken from a toward frame, and the latter is spoken from an away frame. In general, when you speak or think about what you desire, that's a T.F., and when you speak or think about what you want to avoid, that's an A.F.
Frames work sort of like positive affirmations. When you focus on any particular thing, more of that thing is going to show up in your reality. Right away, TF's will make you seem more positive and confident. Someone who uses A.F.'s is a complainer, while someone who uses T.F.'s is a visionary, they're someone with ambition. And that alone is already worth making the switch. And beyond just changing other peoples' perception of you, the choice of which frames to adopt also changes your own thoughts and feelings. By changing your thoughts and feelings, a frameswitch changes your entire reality.
After I'd been in the Air Force for awhile, I was getting pretty fed up with military life. I adopted strong away frames, saying: "I want to get out of here", "I don't wanna go to work", "I don't want to do this weather forecast" (I was a weather forecaster). It won't surprise you to hear that my attempts to get out were pretty futile while I held that state of mind. One of the things which helped change things was when I shifted focus. Rather than tune my eyes to what I disn't like about my job, I changed my focus toward where I'd rather be: university.
When I was focused on university, that filled me with energy. I was eager to get up in the morning because I saw the day as a gift, time I could invest toward my goal. Before, when I was focusing exclusively on what was making me miserable, there was no reason to get up in the morning. My life was filling up more and more with the things I wanted to avoid. I'm glad I finally did shift perspectives, or for all I know, I might be doing weather forecasts out of Baghdad right now. "Get out there soldier, you've gotta measure how much sand is blowing around in this sandstorm!" No thanks!
FURTHER READING
Deep Desires and Surface Desires
Examples Of Positive Affirmations
The Reticular Activation System
Conscious and Subconscious Mind
Frames work sort of like positive affirmations. When you focus on any particular thing, more of that thing is going to show up in your reality. Right away, TF's will make you seem more positive and confident. Someone who uses A.F.'s is a complainer, while someone who uses T.F.'s is a visionary, they're someone with ambition. And that alone is already worth making the switch. And beyond just changing other peoples' perception of you, the choice of which frames to adopt also changes your own thoughts and feelings. By changing your thoughts and feelings, a frameswitch changes your entire reality.
After I'd been in the Air Force for awhile, I was getting pretty fed up with military life. I adopted strong away frames, saying: "I want to get out of here", "I don't wanna go to work", "I don't want to do this weather forecast" (I was a weather forecaster). It won't surprise you to hear that my attempts to get out were pretty futile while I held that state of mind. One of the things which helped change things was when I shifted focus. Rather than tune my eyes to what I disn't like about my job, I changed my focus toward where I'd rather be: university.
When I was focused on university, that filled me with energy. I was eager to get up in the morning because I saw the day as a gift, time I could invest toward my goal. Before, when I was focusing exclusively on what was making me miserable, there was no reason to get up in the morning. My life was filling up more and more with the things I wanted to avoid. I'm glad I finally did shift perspectives, or for all I know, I might be doing weather forecasts out of Baghdad right now. "Get out there soldier, you've gotta measure how much sand is blowing around in this sandstorm!" No thanks!
FURTHER READING
Deep Desires and Surface Desires
Examples Of Positive Affirmations
The Reticular Activation System
Conscious and Subconscious Mind
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